4th Generation Intuitive Medium Certified Holistic Life Coach Law of Attraction Teacher Manifesting Coach Author · 7 Steps to Manifesting Your Dream Life
Michele Stans

I know what it's like to feel like you're living someone else's life.

Everyone around you thinks you have all the "right" things. The things they told you would make you happy. All the while, you're working your butt off, you feel like you're in a soul sucking job, always tired and if one more person says something like, "I know you're not hourly but you need to take your lunch between 11a and 2p because Wanda in accounting saw you coming back at 3pm and she complained you took a long lunch even if you left at 2pm…" and the same person saying this comes in at 10am, leaves for lunch at 11am, comes back between 2 and 3 and leaves at 4:30p…you're worried you're going to end up on an episode of Snapped.

While, on the inside you know you're meant for something else because you're the one who reads cards (maybe they are in your desk right now), who keeps crystals on her desk next to your 1 regulation plant, or the one who talks to Spirit. Maybe the one who wants to start her own business, find a job where you're appreciated and free to go to lunch whenever you like and people get that if you're doing your job right, maybe just leave you alone. Maybe you want to travel or be the artist or musician that's been squatting inside you all this time, but "who does that and won't I be living under a bridge?" crosses your mind in the second thought of the dream.

This version of you is standing right behind this slowly crumbling facade you wear every day, waiting for you to let her out.

To watch the dissonance between the woman clocking in every day and the woman you actually are get a little wider and a little more painful every year, until something breaks and you have to decide what to do with the breaking.

I lived in that dissonance for a long time before I did anything about it…

As a 4th generation intuitive medium whose spiritual beliefs were not "the norm," living that muggle life was really REALLY hard. I thought I was doing everything right… but it was right for my parents, my friends. For someone else. Not me.

I started taking singing lessons at 14. Studied privately with vocal coaches until I was 32. Earned my degree in Mass Communications with a Theatre and Vocal minor. I was in theatre productions, a solo artist, a backup singer, a demo singer, a lead singer in a band, and a vocal coach for 19 years. While I was building my singing career, I was also building my music industry career alongside it. I got a post graduate certification in General Practice Law as a paralegal because it satisfied everyone else's goals for me. They wanted me to be a lawyer. I compromised and got halfway there. I ended up working as a Contracts Specialist in the legal departments at BMI, Warner Bros., Gibson Guitar, Baldwin Piano. Managing artist endorsement deals. Living both sides of that equation at the same time, in the same body, for 12 years.

Then, in May of 2010, a flood hit Nashville that they said only happens once every thousand years. Over a hundred thousand people were affected. Our home was destroyed, and it would take more than a year to rebuild it.

Rebuilding a house requires money, and my music industry job wasn't going to provide enough of it. So I made the practical choice. I left and took a job in healthcare that could fund the rebuild. Because healthcare was where the money was at… and I traded my beliefs for it…

If you've ever made the "practical" choice, taken the job that pays instead of the one that's actually yours, you already know exactly what that trade costs, even when it's the right call in the moment.

And when the rebuild was over, I didn't go back. Not because I chose to stay, but because I hadn't yet realized I'd left myself behind. That awareness came later, slowly, the way those things do. In the growing wrongness. In the office politics. In the moments I'd speak truth about something and be told to be quiet and stop causing trouble.

I had abandoned myself so gradually that I didn't even notice... until it got so painful that I did.

But before that awareness fully arrived, the flood had already cracked something open in me. With four feet of water in my home and everything stripped back to what mattered, I found my way back to the manifesting work I'd always known. I started listening again to the voice I'd been told to quiet in those first moments as I saw the water start to envelop my home. I manifested the last hotel room that was pet friendly at the first hotel we could get to in the weather. I manifested an apartment less than a mile from our home that was pet friendly and I could easily afford even with the mortgage payments, utilities and basically paying for two households during the year long rebuild. I manifested thousands of dollars to fund the rebuild and manifested deeper relationships with every person I knew in those moments.

When we moved back in… I tried to go back to "normal." I just couldn't. Normal didn't fit anymore.

So in 2016, while still working full time in the legal department of a healthcare company, I went back to school for my coaching certification. I was doing it all at once, the corporate job, the coursework, the clinical hours, and on the last day of my classes, my employer called. I had the PTO. I had every right to be where I was. They told me that if I didn't come in, I wouldn't get paid.

I said: I understand, and I'll take the unpaid day. I chose me and my calling.

Within a month I finished my clinical hours and received my certification. The founder of the school told me no one she'd ever worked with had certified that fast.

I got my certificate and hung out my coaching shingle.

I manifested a new job at a different healthcare company that came with a $10K raise out of the blue, they called me, that August, and for two more years I lived both lives at once, corporate job by day, coaching and teaching manifesting on the side, crystals on my desk and a soul that was done shrinking. But the dissonance between who I was in that office and who I knew myself to be had become impossible to live in. I could not keep going against my own truth. I could not keep choosing the job over my integrity. And when the moment came that made that undeniable, I was done.

Thirty days later, I resigned.

I had a plan. I had a coach. I had been doing the inner work, healing things, reconnecting with my own voice, rebuilding the self-trust I'd slowly handed over to other people's dreams through jobs that were never going to honor it. I had already been coaching and teaching manifesting on the side, and I knew... I knew... I could do this.

So I leaped. And I haven't looked back since.

I know what it's like to leap without a guarantee it'll work. I also know what it's like to keep leaping, and keep being met, right person, right door, right moment, because that's what actually happens once you understand how manifesting works.

In my first year I manifested:

Here's what I know after all of it:

The thing that keeps you stuck isn't a strategy problem. It isn't a skill problem or a timing problem or a money problem. It's how you lose yourself over time, so gradually that you don't even know it's happening. Until one day you wake up and wonder how you got here. And the fear of not knowing how on earth you find your way back.

It's the fear and self abandonment we convince ourselves is necessary, to fit in, to keep the peace, to do the things we think we have to do. And from the outside everything can look perfect and why would we not be happy? The good job. The benefits. The three bedroom house in the right zip code with the two German cars in the driveway. And you go home at night and stare at the ceiling fan or pour yourself another glass of wine and wonder what your escape plan is. And then the paycheck hits and you push it all back down for another two weeks.

After a while you start to realize the pain of staying where you are outweighs the fear of leaving the stability. And something in you knows you were meant to listen to that still small voice that's been silenced for too long, because there is something more inspiring for you out there. And this sure as heck ain't it.

But here's what I know: there was never anything wrong with you. The voice that got shut down? It's still there. The knowing that got buried? It's still there. You didn't lose any of it. You just became disconnected from it.

I know because I lived it, and once I knew how, I manifested an entirely new life for myself.

If any of this sounds familiar, the job that looks right on paper, the voice you've been told to keep quiet, the dissonance that keeps getting louder, I'm not here to fix you. You were never broken. I'm here because some things need a witness who's stood at the same edge, learned how to manifest in a spiritual, practical and no more glitter covered BS way that just finally friggin' works, and leaped anyway.


Let's talk about what that leap could look like for you.

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